This is nicely followed by the topic of the sacred inner couple, because “as inside, so outside”. I want to explain why we should even know about the sacred inner couple. Entirely simply speaking, the point is that we include an inner female and an inner male as a female and male principle which is comprised in everything that surrounds us.
Most of all, this principle is affected by our childhood and, therefore, by our parents where we really need to search for insights during harmonisation of our sacred couple in us.
However, I believe that nowadays nothing more than conscious insight in our childhood is needed. Many of us already understand that our parents did the best they could and if it could have been done better, they would definitely have done it. I myself had several opportunities to step into the shoes of my mom to understand how difficult it is to change over to other attitudes without sufficient energy. That is simply impossible. Therefore, it is important to understand that in some stages of our life we simply need to be helped by others, because we alone do not have enough energy for a change.
Moreover, a frank request for help reinforces the woman’s ability to ask for and then accept help, which means her ability to accept herself and everything in general. In case of men, this humility in the finale transforms into his ability to change from a proud man to a dignified man. Men in their excessive pride cause a lot of pain and it is not necessary.
To me, the topic of inner male and inner female was quite hard to understand for some time. I was reading again and again how our inner female and inner male must reach balance, mutual respect and, above all, trust in love. I was not fully successful at feeling it, because I kept putting in some characters from outside. But in the end, an opportunity has arisen to understand it. Naturally it was not otherwise than through my own experience.
An experience came and I saw there that my inner female was still having doubts about herself. At that time I realised that this was the reason why I was actually still having doubts about myself and, therefore, I was unable to encourage my inner male to believe in love. Therefore, men who were appearing in my life also had doubts about their deserving love.
By insight into my childhood I have realised retrospectively how long I had been living in doubts about deserving love. I have found out how serious consequences result from our fears and disappointment from childhood, which may last for years, and we live with them, since we do not know anything else. What I call “inner urgency” came to me. It was a true inner desire to fill my inner female with love and trust which then she can satiate her inner man. For a long time I have been aware that only then the way I feel inside will be the same outside. I thanked for the opportunity to perceive that all with this understanding and work has thus begun. I started 30 days of feeding my inner female, daily combining several rituals, such as womb purification from emotional injuries, and encouraging my inner male’s confidence in the inner female’s trust and love.
I keep emphasising that first our female in us needs to be satiated by love to find anchorage and be able to teach the male to love. Therefore, our inner female and the whole topic related to our inner female are highly important for healing our ability of self-fulfilment with love. Then work on harmonising our inner male follows.
It is not necessary anymore to go through our injuries from childhood lengthily. It is only important to see where it has originated and bring thus the suppressed and understood to light. The whole situation heals this way on its own.
A lack of trust in love of our inner female causes preconceiving and creating scenarios, being jealous and afraid so much of rejection that she prepares this scene subconsciously. Female creative power is enormous and, therefore, it is necessary to use it consciously.