Not only that Love does not leave….

06.05.2018

but it tends to grow… it is limitless. We all know the tale of a princess and her pure, beautiful and everlasting love. I believe we all do. The simple piece of evidence is the fact that believing in this dream gives us strength to cross our own limits and, thank God, to cross even the limits of our own pride.

Unfortunately, our pride often manifests itself as low self-confidence hidden behind strong self-righteousness – it has to be our way, so that we do not need to change ourselves. So the princess meets her King Thrushbeard in the end who teaches her to appreciate small things in life and respect others and herself.

It is impossible to grow a mutual love to another person without loving yourself first. I am sure that you read lots of articles about this, maybe even my blog article “I woman”, and that you know how to learn to love yourselves.

The moment we learn how to connect to our inner source and stay there, we will experience such love that is described by prophets: ”Love cannot do anything but love and does not take what it has not got.”

Today I want to talk about how to grow love from its source. That is how we can achieve our princess’ dream.

I realised one important detail and that is that the source (Love) gets to higher levels with our enhanced ability to experience it.

This is actually the most important trigger of the development of Love in our life.

Love is growing with our courage to live life, to experience it.

Basically, it is our desire that is connecting us to the source. On top of it all, a collective desire of this kind is making the source even stronger.

What to do then?

Get over our ego and pride (they manifest like boredom, laziness and smart reasons why not)
Realise what are our old/useless limitations and convictions (sometimes very new ones... these times bring lots of information and not all of it is beneficial)
Allow ourselves to go out there and try new things (and most importantly to experience it on our own – that is how the path opens itself for us)
Allow ourselves to accept challenges (sometimes they scare us a little but we are strongly attracted to them)
Live our life and perceive our mistakes only as a tool to understand the “contradictions”
Perceive our true NATURE in spite of all contradictions (we are our true nature)
Understand, name and allow ourselves to meet our true needs
Express our emotions (in a safe way, understanding that they are our emotions – I will talk about this more a bit later in this article)

If I stick to the practical understanding of how to further develop LOVE, there are a few areas we need to concentrate on, those are based on my own experience and summarised in the following paragraphs.

I am not talking about ecstasies fuelled by some sort of doping. I am talking about a natural growth of the source, which is being fuelled by strengthening our own intuition and humbleness. The intuition is the key tool, which will tune us into the unity of our environment and the people in it. That is how unity and synchronicity work. The humbleness will always protect us against our limiting ego.

We do not own our success, we are only renting it. And the rent is due every day.

How is it possible that the strength of the source continues to multiply? Whatever we send out is coming back much stronger. When we look at everything through love because we live it and are open and ready to change our opinions and attitudes, everything is multiplying and coming back to us much stronger than ever before. That way we are able to accept and perceive more confidence in our source, in ourselves. The whole new dimension of our vision, abilities and possibilities is opening for us.

Lets get practical:

What do we need to apply in our life on a regular basis in order to refine the acquired self-love in connection with others?

For a woman, it is absolutely key to get rid of her emotions on a regular basis. We are gifted to see the complexity in order to navigate through our environment and to understand how to cultivate our relationships. Our ability to understand the environment is then reflected in our psyche and we are then like sponges. It is neccessary to wring the sponge on a regular basis in order to allow it to start absorbing again. That is why it is so important to share our feelings with our partner and not to become victims and blame our partners
In order to practise as described in point 1, we need lots of patience. Our own experience and negative examples from our families only lead to remorse. Be aware of that. What we despised in the past, we often do ourselves today. Do not worry though – if you fall for remorse and realise that, you can stop and start all over again. Your partner will surely appreciate that and you will not do it again. It is important to practise this so called emotional relief. Your partner can take the dog out afterwards. The men can do it, they can let go... By doing so they are getting better in understanding women, listening to them and showing them respect. On the other side, the woman will gain confidence that such sharing is safe. She will gain confidence and will trust her partner. For men, this is the third most important need next to woman’s gratitude and being accepted the way they are. Healing, loving energy is being created like this and both partners gain strong belief in their partnership, their respective roles in it and in love.
Understand your inner Goddess Kali, who is destroying everything that does not serve you anymore. When we are getting rid of negative emotions, it is our inner Kali talking to us. It is important to understand though that 80% of her cleansing activity relates to our karma (very often generational injustice), which was initiated in our reality by somebody close to us and this initiation represents only 20% of the emotion. That means that only 20% of our emotional cleanse is relevant in relation to the other party. That is why it is so important to understand that through these emotions we are cleansing our old wounds. It is critical to communicate with your partner step by step so that he does not take it too seriously. Nevertheless the Kali’s cleanses are of the utmost importance because her activity supports 80% of our creative energy when we act as an elevating and iluminating element in our relationships. 80% of our supporting role is to be HAPPY ourselves.
Understand the flow – the flow of the river of life. When it feels things are slow or not as you expected, you start looking for information that will show you that YOU yourself are not ready or are rushing into something so that you do not need to get back into yourself (sort your inner fears). The pace at that time is the right pace. It is impossible to make it faster. If so, it would have gone faster. The rush equals pride, i.e. I want to be somewhere else because I do not agree with what I am right now. The time has to be right for both partners in order to open up and trust each other, to be devoted (not dependent). Devotion brings huge creative potential, which is called „being drawn into dharma“. You do not only live through your karma (cleansing one on the other) but also your creative potential together as a couple grows alongside your mutual love. The only positive adiction is an adiction on the passion for life.
Always remember the following mantras:
We are what we think that we are! We have what we think we deserve! We have everything we believe in. Our belief is always manifested in reality (i.e. in our relationships, our bodies, our children, our financial situation,...).

Fear, envy, pity, doubts are coming back as illness, poverty, arguments, fraud, infidelity...
Kindness, trust, child-like openess, flexibility, greatness of the heart, selflessness come back as abundance, happiness, joy and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
I feel that it is super beneficial for the man/woman relationships to add the following quote from Helen Andelin’s book. It is a very important point for all capable women. It is about man’s pride – how we can adjust the relationship by the way we deal with his pride.

Don't wound him: Take care that you don't wound his masculine pride, that you are never the guilty one. If he returns from the battleground of life and is further subjected to contempt or indifference, it will undermine his confidence and alter his feelings for you.
Heal his wounds: Heal the wounds inflicted by others. Become his good angel, the one who builds him up when other have torn him down. When you do, you become indispensable to his happiness and contribute greatly to his overall success in life. No one can take your place in ministering the healing balm that keeps men going.

If you fail on both counts, if you add injury to injury and utterly fail to build his self-esteem in his hour of need, you can destroy him and his feelings for you. A woman is in a precarious position; she can build or destroy a man according to how she deals with his masculine ego.
(Fascinating Womanhood - Helen Andelin, page 209)
I am attaching the following two quotes from Adru-shina’s Grail with a philosophical idea in the background. I felt that if was important – to remind ourselves how important our role is.
And since through her peculiarity, which lies in the connection to Substantiality in Creation, woman is stronger than the coarser spiritual species of man, and consequently the decisive factor.
It is thus that you shall and must stand in Creation! Therefore become spiritually free within yourselves, you women and girls! The woman who is content to live merely as a mother in her life on earth has missed her real purpose and vocation!
Love frequency vibrations flood us on a daily basis and it is only ourselves who fail to accept them. I have already written an article about this. Today, I will only add another piece of information, which may help you to enhance your daily elevation to the higher vibrations and ultimately to the source through elevation to the vibration of love. It only takes 17 seconds for your thought to bring another similar thought and in less than 70 seconds a belief is created that disconnects you from the source. It is very fast and I myself know how difficult it is to stay connected. The moment you start feeling weird, sad or tired, it is usually already happening. A fast connection works through a mantra: I vibrate on the frequency of love!
The subject of conscious sexuality.
I recommend you to realise how powerful your ability to consciously lead a man during intercourse is. There are a few conscious rules governed by the needed discipline, which will help you to learn about your own sexuality (before we apply this lesson in a partnership). It is about understanding your gift to adjust your relationship to yourself and furthermore to your partner through your organism. I am preparing a dedicated article on this subject.

Consciously working with the above information will elevate you and your relationship into a new dimension.

I am looking forward to it.

With love,

Eva